It’s a risk no doubt. It’s a very big part of our marriage. With that being said, had we not ventured down this road pre-marriage I’m pretty sure there’s no way we would give it a try. Have we dealt with the issues you brought up? Short answer is yes.
First I will say if your wife is going to fall for someone else it’s probably going to happen with or without the help of a bull. Whether it’s at work, amongst friends, or something more random. We weren’t married when we started and there were times the mind wondered no doubt. We made sure very early on that we talked a lot, NOTHING was off limits during those talks, and we made it clear, and yes this will sound ridiculous, but what each other’s love language is and to emphasize the exhibition of it.
On the other note. There’s zero limits on rules and limitations relayed to the man or men involved with your gf or wife. Whatever those limits are need to be set with zero exceptions and clearly communicated. Anyone who lives this lifestyle and has not experienced another man trying to push those limits is either ignorant or he's intentionally avoiding it.
And lastly. It’s a bit of a generalization to say women need an emotional attachment to have sex with another man. Most of the men my wife has been with since our re-entry to the lifestyle were met through other men she had an established contact with. She didn’t need to get to know them to have sex with them. If your other half is having sex with others due to needing something other than physical contact and affirmation it may not be for you.
We’ve had a half dozen or so relationships, friendships that is, with people who live the same lifestyle. Not once have we seen the woman run off with some black stud who has sent her to ******* and beyond. We have seen an immense amount of relationship destruction from the men who get fed up with a black man pleasing their wives though. We just lost a few couples in our life because of it.
