The other thing is that I hope that *you're* using condoms, considering that you're fucking multiple black guys without your husband's knowledge or consent (have you seen the CDC's STD statistics for African-Americans). If I was married and the wife cheated but used protection and tried to protect me, forgiveness might be possible. But if she had unprotected sex with multiple black guys and risked exposing me, the loving and faithful husband, to STDs, HIV, or the possibility of an extramarital pregnancy, I'd be so beyond livid and crushed in every way.