To start, know that one of my biggest challenges is that my wife is very conservative, shy, and traditional to the core.
However she is very trainable, and willing to do most things I ask if I approach it the right way.
My wife had expressed to me a long time ago she found black men sexy. She tends to get hit on by black guys in public because her butt is big. She doesn’t normally like too much attention but I can tell she gets flustered by these situations. She’s usually quiet and reserved so it’s a turn on for her when a black man is bold enough to hit on her and express his desires for her. She gets turned on by being desired.
Since she told me these things long ago, I can’t stop fantasizing about her getting stretched out by a bbc. She knows this as I’ve told her in the past and more recently that this is one of my fantasies while having sex not too long ago.
While having sex I told her a scenario where I was going to make arrangements to take her dancing and I wanted her to wear a skimpy dress and no panties and dance with some black men. She said sounded hot and I could watch her from a balcony while she dances with and grinds on some bbc. I furthered the fantasy by saying what if you really like one of the guys and he wants to fuck you. Long story short she got super wet and came right around when I asked her “what if he cums inside you while he’s fucking you?”
When talking more, she’s stated she doesn’t actually want to open our marriage up and we’ve talked through how it’s my fantasy and how she’s willing to play along. I’ve told her what hotwifing is. She thinks I’m a little crazy but she’s willing to entertain the fantasy. One thing she’s expressed to me is she’s worried about this snowballing and turning into the real thing. Meaning, she’s scared we’re both going to actually want to do it eventually if we keep “practicing” and acting out the fantasy. So I can’t be too pushy or move too quickly. It’s been very incremental getting here very slowly and deliberately so I am playing my cards right and trying to take each sequential baby step.
I got her a couple bbc dildos recently (see attachments) and we’ve been using them fairly often. She really likes the new one I just got (we call it her boyfriend) as it curves and hits her G spot, and she was taking it balls deep last night which she normally doesn’t go too deep because she’s kind of petite.
I had her close her eyes and picture the hottest black guy she could. I told her “I want you to pretend his black cock is fucking you” and she listened. I kissed her neck and she said was cumming in no time.
Talking with her after, I asked her how it was. She said it was good and I asked her what she thought of the fantasy. she said "the more i entertain it, the more I get into it"
Being conservative, she is very against porn now. She used to not be, and she would often let me film her but she’s gotten more conservative over time and having a family. I asked her if I could put on some porn for her to watch while I ate her out and she declined. She actually got upset about it but we spoke later and I told her id rather be open and honest about these things and include her rather than watch IR porn in secret by myself.
I feel like watching IR porn with her is the next logical step, but it needs to be at the right time when shes receptive and willing.
She is smart, as shes stated that eventually we're going to want the real thing and she also has the stance that porn ruins people. So these are my hurdles.
Do you agree that watching IR is the next incremental step?
She is willing for me to make arrangements to take her dancing and is willing to dance and flirt with black men.
I feel like somewhere down the line I could suggest video chatting and playing with herself on video for a bbc but we’re not there yet. It’s still too soon to suggest that, trust me. I know where her boundaries are, we haven’t crossed that line yet but perhaps soon.
Despite her not wanting to actually open up the marriage at this time I honestly don't think it would take much for her to change her mind if we met the right black man that she fancied. Somebody who she clicked with, found interesting, charming, funny etc and of course attractive. I have been asking her for what kind of black man she thinks is hot and she likes a big, pro athlete kind of black man.
So I feel like my next 2 steps are: 1. IR porn while I pleasure her and she uses her boyfriend and 2. Take her to the club to dance with some black men. This is where we are currently at. Any advice is appreciated.
However she is very trainable, and willing to do most things I ask if I approach it the right way.
My wife had expressed to me a long time ago she found black men sexy. She tends to get hit on by black guys in public because her butt is big. She doesn’t normally like too much attention but I can tell she gets flustered by these situations. She’s usually quiet and reserved so it’s a turn on for her when a black man is bold enough to hit on her and express his desires for her. She gets turned on by being desired.
Since she told me these things long ago, I can’t stop fantasizing about her getting stretched out by a bbc. She knows this as I’ve told her in the past and more recently that this is one of my fantasies while having sex not too long ago.
While having sex I told her a scenario where I was going to make arrangements to take her dancing and I wanted her to wear a skimpy dress and no panties and dance with some black men. She said sounded hot and I could watch her from a balcony while she dances with and grinds on some bbc. I furthered the fantasy by saying what if you really like one of the guys and he wants to fuck you. Long story short she got super wet and came right around when I asked her “what if he cums inside you while he’s fucking you?”
When talking more, she’s stated she doesn’t actually want to open our marriage up and we’ve talked through how it’s my fantasy and how she’s willing to play along. I’ve told her what hotwifing is. She thinks I’m a little crazy but she’s willing to entertain the fantasy. One thing she’s expressed to me is she’s worried about this snowballing and turning into the real thing. Meaning, she’s scared we’re both going to actually want to do it eventually if we keep “practicing” and acting out the fantasy. So I can’t be too pushy or move too quickly. It’s been very incremental getting here very slowly and deliberately so I am playing my cards right and trying to take each sequential baby step.
I got her a couple bbc dildos recently (see attachments) and we’ve been using them fairly often. She really likes the new one I just got (we call it her boyfriend) as it curves and hits her G spot, and she was taking it balls deep last night which she normally doesn’t go too deep because she’s kind of petite.
I had her close her eyes and picture the hottest black guy she could. I told her “I want you to pretend his black cock is fucking you” and she listened. I kissed her neck and she said was cumming in no time.
Talking with her after, I asked her how it was. She said it was good and I asked her what she thought of the fantasy. she said "the more i entertain it, the more I get into it"
Being conservative, she is very against porn now. She used to not be, and she would often let me film her but she’s gotten more conservative over time and having a family. I asked her if I could put on some porn for her to watch while I ate her out and she declined. She actually got upset about it but we spoke later and I told her id rather be open and honest about these things and include her rather than watch IR porn in secret by myself.
I feel like watching IR porn with her is the next logical step, but it needs to be at the right time when shes receptive and willing.
She is smart, as shes stated that eventually we're going to want the real thing and she also has the stance that porn ruins people. So these are my hurdles.
Do you agree that watching IR is the next incremental step?
She is willing for me to make arrangements to take her dancing and is willing to dance and flirt with black men.
I feel like somewhere down the line I could suggest video chatting and playing with herself on video for a bbc but we’re not there yet. It’s still too soon to suggest that, trust me. I know where her boundaries are, we haven’t crossed that line yet but perhaps soon.
Despite her not wanting to actually open up the marriage at this time I honestly don't think it would take much for her to change her mind if we met the right black man that she fancied. Somebody who she clicked with, found interesting, charming, funny etc and of course attractive. I have been asking her for what kind of black man she thinks is hot and she likes a big, pro athlete kind of black man.
So I feel like my next 2 steps are: 1. IR porn while I pleasure her and she uses her boyfriend and 2. Take her to the club to dance with some black men. This is where we are currently at. Any advice is appreciated.
