No such thing as a “single cuck”

[GVLBottom]

That might grab some attention, but I have seen this more and more and I had some thoughts about it I’d like to share. Discuss away.

I see more and more threads of guys identifying themselves as a “single cuck” or “single stag” or something of the like. The problem is that it misses the point entirely. In fact, I would contend that to make the argument that such a thing exists is a slap in the face to real cuckolding and wife sharing relationships.

I am currently single, but I am not a cuckold right now. I’m a fan of the lifestyle, but that’s a stark difference. I was though, at one time a cuckold. My ex and I were in the lifestyle before she graduated college and moved away and during the time we were in a relationship, the lifestyle was absolutely amazing for us.

But when I think about being her cuck, I think about ALL of the things that went into the relationship. We met on tinder and exchanged messages, went on vanilla dates, cultivated a friendship, then a relationship. We met each others circle of friends and went through all the things a real couple does to BUILD a relationship. I worked for the first kiss, and of course worked to get her in bed. After getting to know her, we moved towards kinkier things, and built up to cuckolding. She knew I liked to be pegged when we met, but this was not on the radar. Thinking back to the buildup around her first “date” with another guy, it’s otherworldly how wild it is to think that I would share MY girlfriend with all our shared experiences with another guy.

Now, thinking of that, think of a self described single cuck. It’s basically just a guy who likes watching porn. It’s cheap to think of a guy who has nothing invested in a girl that doesn’t know he exists, and thinks he’s on the level of a husband who is watching HIS wife with a guy. Get the fuck out of here……

The best analogy I can think of is this: as a car and racing fan, I can like and appreciate watching guys drive Ferraris and expensive super cars on tv. I love watching racing and can admire the skill it takes to do so. I also realize that those drivers do not OWN the cars they are driving. Imagine saving up YOUR hard earned money for years, working late hours and finally throwing down the cash to buy a brand new Ferrari. Your dream car and your life savings

Then, you hand the keys to a professional racing driver. Your car and your half million dollars in the hands of a guy that will squeeze every drop of performance out of it, but also may total it. You watch him do things in that car that only he is capable of and see that car operating in its perfect environment. It has to be an absolute wonder to watch.

Then, some slob walks up beside you and puts him arm on your shoulder as he watches, and says “man, me and you are just two peas in a pod, I love it when that guys rings her out like that don’t you?”

Love to hear your thoughts. A rant for sure, but when you see a cuckold, or when you see a stag, put some respect on their name….

 

[whatsright]

That might grab some attention, but I have seen this more and more and I had some thoughts about it I’d like to share. Discuss away.

I see more and more threads of guys identifying themselves as a “single cuck” or “single stag” or something of the like. The problem is that it misses the point entirely. In fact, I would contend that to make the argument that such a thing exists is a slap in the face to real cuckolding and wife sharing relationships.

I am currently single, but I am not a cuckold right now. I’m a fan of the lifestyle, but that’s a stark difference. I was though, at one time a cuckold. My ex and I were in the lifestyle before she graduated college and moved away and during the time we were in a relationship, the lifestyle was absolutely amazing for us.

But when I think about being her cuck, I think about ALL of the things that went into the relationship. We met on tinder and exchanged messages, went on vanilla dates, cultivated a friendship, then a relationship. We met each others circle of friends and went through all the things a real couple does to BUILD a relationship. I worked for the first kiss, and of course worked to get her in bed. After getting to know her, we moved towards kinkier things, and built up to cuckolding. She knew I liked to be pegged when we met, but this was not on the radar. Thinking back to the buildup around her first “date” with another guy, it’s otherworldly how wild it is to think that I would share MY girlfriend with all our shared experiences with another guy.

Now, thinking of that, think of a self described single cuck. It’s basically just a guy who likes watching porn. It’s cheap to think of a guy who has nothing invested in a girl that doesn’t know he exists, and thinks he’s on the level of a husband who is watching HIS wife with a guy. Get the fuck out of here……

The best analogy I can think of is this: as a car and racing fan, I can like and appreciate watching guys drive Ferraris and expensive super cars on tv. I love watching racing and can admire the skill it takes to do so. I also realize that those drivers do not OWN the cars they are driving. Imagine saving up YOUR hard earned money for years, working late hours and finally throwing down the cash to buy a brand new Ferrari. Your dream car and your life savings

Then, you hand the keys to a professional racing driver. Your car and your half million dollars in the hands of a guy that will squeeze every drop of performance out of it, but also may total it. You watch him do things in that car that only he is capable of and see that car operating in its perfect environment. It has to be an absolute wonder to watch.

Then, some slob walks up beside you and puts him arm on your shoulder as he watches, and says “man, me and you are just two peas in a pod, I love it when that guys rings her out like that don’t you?”

Love to hear your thoughts. A rant for sure, but when you see a cuckold, or when you see a stag, put some respect on their name….

sorry, but im a single cuck...twice divorced

 

[vici4u]

sorry, but im a single cuck...twice divorced

Yep, agree I've been a sisicuckold all my life 62y and currently in-between relationships, I don't stop being a sisicuckold just because I don't have GF/ wife

 

[GVLBottom]

Yep, agree I've been a sisicuckold all my life 62y and currently in-between relationships, I don't stop being a sisicuckold just because I don't have GF/ wife

What skin do you have in the game?

Can you describe the difference between a “single cuck” and someone who is just a fan of cuck porn?

I’m not saying that someone can’t have previously been in a cuckolding relationship, or can’t have aspirations to be a cuckold. But WHO is cuckolding you if you’re single?

 

[vici4u]

What skin do you have in the game?

Can you describe the difference between a “single cuck” and someone who is just a fan of cuck porn?

I’m not saying that someone can’t have previously been in a cuckolding relationship, or can’t have aspirations to be a cuckold. But WHO is cuckolding you if you’re single?

Thanks for sharing your views

 

[MacNfries]

Love to hear your thoughts. A rant for sure, but when you see a cuckold, or when you see a stag, put some respect on their name….

You have a valid point if and only if you stay within the original definition of the word, cuckold. Unfortunately, that definition has gone the way of the other old word, wittol ... both meaning roughly the same thing. You can fight & argue the misuse of the word(s) and frustrate yourself to death OR you can accept that words, in general, tend to morph over time and take on broader meanings.

Using your reasoning, suppose you have been dating some lady for 3-5 years, and finally decide to make her an "honest woman" by coughing up $5-15,000 on a sparkling diamond engagement ring. And suppose that 6 months after becoming engaged to her you find out she's been dating (I use that word as 'fucking' is so unpure) lol, other guys behind your back. If fact, she's been screwing a couple of your supposedly best friends the past couple years yet accepts your generous $15,000 engagement ring just to show around to all her GFs. So, you've been duped ... an honorable man who's been monogamous to his lovely fiancé for over 5 years and spent tons of money on a cheating slut (your private thought). In today's terminology you've been cucked (cheated on) countless times by many men by this bitch who anyone could probably bang for a beer. That's today's continuing changing meaning of the word, cuckold.

It used to be that cuckold applied only to the male half of the marriage, as well, however it now pertains to either half of the marriage (spouse). However, about 12-15 years ago females began applying it to themselves when their husbands were caught cheating on them. Now, its applies to unmarried couples who are supposedly in monogamous relationships where one of the couple members is cheating without the knowledge of the other member.

I've been a member of this website over 14 years, GVL, and I can assure you that I fought this very topic as much as you will ... and it was as fruitless THEN as it will be NOW. So, simply accept the fact that words tend to change or broaden meaning over time. Over the bigger picture of time you'll find that the definition of words tend to move along with the development of mankind.

.... this one's MINE! LOL

 

[GVLBottom]

You have a valid point if and only if you stay within the original definition of the word, cuckold. Unfortunately, that definition has gone the way of the other old word, wittol ... both meaning roughly the same thing. You can fight & argue the misuse of the word(s) and frustrate yourself to death OR you can accept that words, in general, tend to morph over time and take on broader meanings.

Using your reasoning, suppose you have been dating some lady for 3-5 years, and finally decide to make her an "honest woman" by coughing up $5-15,000 on a sparkling diamond engagement ring. And suppose that 6 months after becoming engaged to her you find out she's been dating (I use that word as 'fucking' is so unpure) lol, other guys behind your back. If fact, she's been screwing a couple of your supposedly best friends the past couple years yet accepts your generous $15,000 engagement ring just to show around to all her GFs. So, you've been duped ... an honorable man who's been monogamous to his lovely fiancé for over 5 years and spent tons of money on a cheating slut (your private thought). In today's terminology you've been cucked (cheated on) countless times by many men by this bitch who anyone could probably bang for a beer. That's today's continuing changing meaning of the word, cuckold.

It used to be that cuckold applied only to the male half of the marriage, as well, however it now pertains to either half of the marriage (spouse). However, about 12-15 years ago females began applying it to themselves when their husbands were caught cheating on them. Now, its applies to unmarried couples who are supposedly in monogamous relationships where one of the couple members is cheating without the knowledge of the other member.

I've been a member of this website over 14 years, GVL, and I can assure you that I fought this very topic as much as you will ever ... and it was fruitless THEN as it will be NOW. So, simply accept the fact that words tend to change or broaden meaning over time. Over the bigger picture of time you'll find that the definition of words tend to move along with the development of mankind.

View attachment 6923264 .... this one's MINE! LOL

I appreciate your thoughts. I knew I was kicking a beehive on this, but was hoping for a discussion, which may be a dumb request when a lot of the posts are “SHOW ME YOUR BUTTHOLE” but Thankyou for your input.

I will say that I think your post actually goes a long way to PROVING my point. You showed the evolution of the word, and that it could equally apply to either member of the relationship, or that one party could be willing or not, etc. you did a great job explaining the history and how we arrived where we are, but the through line in every example is that there is at least a relationship.

To put it into other terms; if we worked backwards and said we have this population of men that we want to include as cuckolds so let’s write a definition around that; we would have a very broad definition. To include single men, you basically have to define cuckold as “a man that enjoys watching women have sex with other men.” Truthfully, even as words evolve, that definition would miss the mark greatly. Technically, that would be any fan of porn.

My point is that no matter what, to be considered a cuckold, you need at a minimum to be in a relationship. There’s just no definition of the word that can convey accurate meaning and include single men.

 

[MacNfries]

My point is that no matter what, to be considered a cuckold, you need at a minimum to be in a relationship. There’s just no definition of the word that can convey accurate meaning and include single men.

Darn, and I thought I was being quite "pleasant" with my reply, GVL and wasn't meaning to sound argumentive with my response. In fact, I was trying to be precise in simply pointing out the direction the definition of 'cuckold' has taken just since I have been a member of this website. And I imagine it will continue to change. I guess if I was defining what the new definition tends to be (according the ones using it) it simply says that any couple (MF, MM, FF) in a monogamous relationship with each other where one of the committed cheats, the other is now understood to be a cuckold ... or "one who has been betrayed or cheated against". That does make some sense since the % of people in marriages has continued to decrease over the past 20 or so years.
Do I agree with it? As I said, trying to have a conversation that includes cuckolding becomes almost impossible when everyone has or understands the word cuckold to mean something different than what it was meant to be, (married men). So, if you 'accept' my point in the last paragraph, since the marital vows are disappearing from society, but the cheating inside committed unmarried couples is increasing, eventually a discussion of married cuckolds could eventually disappear as no one or very few will be married.
That was really my point ... the key words maybe should now be focused on commitment or monogamous relationships not married men. They call themselves "partners" now ... how sweet.
Mac

ps: If I was 'showing my butthole, maybe it was perceived that way because I was keying on points you maybe hadn't considered. How's that? Early acceptance of 'morphed' words is usually met with resistance, isn't it?
pss: Maybe if I was to change my avatar to a cute, sweet, young woman my responses would be more accepted?! lol

I assume we're still trying to have a conversation, right? I copied the following from a BING search page to support my position:

is the definition of cuckold changing? - Bing

Met de intelligente zoekmachine van Bing kunt u gemakkelijker snel vinden waar u naar op zoek bent en wordt u beloond.

www.bing.com

Cuckolding, a term that has long been associated with male sexual fantasies, is indeed undergoing a transformation. Historically, it referred to a husband whose wife engaged in sexual relations with other men, often resulting in feelings of humiliation and shame for the husband1. However, recent shifts in mainstream attitudes have led to a more nuanced understanding of this phenomenon.​

Here are some key points about the changing definition of cuckolding:​

1. **Female Empowerment: As mainstream attention to cuckolding has increased, there has been a fascinating shift away from solely focusing on the male fantasy. Instead, there is now an elevation of female desires that are central to cuckolding. This recognition acknowledges that women can actively participate in and enjoy consensual non-monogamous experiences1.
2. **Breaking Stigma: Historically, cuckolding was often kept secret due to shame and judgment. Couples who engaged in this lifestyle concealed it even within other sexual communities. However, as shame and stigma around sexual lifestyles decrease, people are finding healthier ways to integrate sexuality into their lives, including exploring cuckolding1.
3. **Variety of Desires: Cuckolding can involve various gender and sexual orientation combinations. It essentially revolves around deriving arousal from watching one’s partner have sex with someone else. Whether it’s the husband or wife who initiates or participates, the focus is on consensual exploration of desires2.

In summary, the definition of cuckolding is evolving beyond stereotypes, and it now encompasses a broader range of experiences and desires. As society becomes more accepting, conversations around sexual preferences continue to evolve1.​

 

[submission52]

The pure definition of a cuckold is a man whose wife has sex with another man.
But the term has changed over the past 20 years to encompass more of a state of mind of a man who wants to find a one-way, non-monogamous relationship with a woman.

So while the dictionary hasn't caught up to the modern use of the word, I think it's splitting hairs to admonish any male who says he is a cuck, even though he's not in a relationship.

 

[MacNfries]

Something we can definitely agree with ... actually, its sad as to how shallow relations have become to ok a couple (any couple of any kind) to have open, unprotected sex, regardless of those they hold dearest to them.
Having a reliable, trustworthy partner though life is way more important than the ability to ask a strange person to have sex with you, in my opinion. Even when my wife & I were active in open sex, we were honest to each other ... and held that as the staple to our relationship.

 

[GVLBottom]

Darn, and I thought I was being quite "pleasant" with my reply, GVL and wasn't meaning to sound argumentive with my response. In fact, I was trying to be precise in simply pointing out the direction the definition of 'cuckold' has taken just since I have been a member of this website. And I imagine it will continue to change. I guess if I was defining what the new definition tends to be (according the ones using it) it simply says that any couple (MF, MM, FF) in a monogamous relationship with each other where one of the committed cheats, the other is now understood to be a cuckold ... or "one who has been betrayed or cheated against". That does make some sense since the % of people in marriages has continued to decrease over the past 20 or so years.
Do I agree with it? As I said, trying to have a conversation that includes cuckolding becomes almost impossible when everyone has or understands the word cuckold to mean something different than what it was meant to be, (married men). So, if you 'accept' my point in the last paragraph, since the marital vows are disappearing from society, but the cheating inside committed unmarried couples is increasing, eventually a discussion of married cuckolds could eventually disappear as no one or very few will be married.
That was really my point ... the key words maybe should now be focused on commitment or monogamous relationships not married men. They call themselves "partners" now ... how sweet.
Mac

ps: If I was 'showing my butthole, maybe it was perceived that way because I was keying on points you maybe hadn't considered. How's that? Early acceptance of 'morphed' words is usually met with resistance, isn't it?
pss: Maybe if I was to change my avatar to a cute, sweet, young woman my responses would be more accepted?! lol

I assume we're still trying to have a conversation, right? I copied the following from a BING search page to support my position:

is the definition of cuckold changing? - Bing

Met de intelligente zoekmachine van Bing kunt u gemakkelijker snel vinden waar u naar op zoek bent en wordt u beloond.

www.bing.com

Cuckolding, a term that has long been associated with male sexual fantasies, is indeed undergoing a transformation. Historically, it referred to a husband whose wife engaged in sexual relations with other men, often resulting in feelings of humiliation and shame for the husband1. However, recent shifts in mainstream attitudes have led to a more nuanced understanding of this phenomenon.​

Here are some key points about the changing definition of cuckolding:​

1. **Female Empowerment: As mainstream attention to cuckolding has increased, there has been a fascinating shift away from solely focusing on the male fantasy. Instead, there is now an elevation of female desires that are central to cuckolding. This recognition acknowledges that women can actively participate in and enjoy consensual non-monogamous experiences1.
2. **Breaking Stigma: Historically, cuckolding was often kept secret due to shame and judgment. Couples who engaged in this lifestyle concealed it even within other sexual communities. However, as shame and stigma around sexual lifestyles decrease, people are finding healthier ways to integrate sexuality into their lives, including exploring cuckolding1.
3. **Variety of Desires: Cuckolding can involve various gender and sexual orientation combinations. It essentially revolves around deriving arousal from watching one’s partner have sex with someone else. Whether it’s the husband or wife who initiates or participates, the focus is on consensual exploration of desires2.

In summary, the definition of cuckolding is evolving beyond stereotypes, and it now encompasses a broader range of experiences and desires. As society becomes more accepting, conversations around sexual preferences continue to evolve1.​

My most sincere apologies, I really do appreciate the discussion on the topic. Sometimes the message gets lots in translation on the internet, and even worse so when I am trying to type replies during conference calls at work. I was hoping for an engaged discussion and that’s what you have provided.

Many threads here quickly devolve into randomly posting porn pics, which was my reference to asking for butthole pics. I don’t want to see yours, although mine is posted in several places on the forum.

I appreciate your well reasoned argument, and that was my goal. I did however learn my lesson to not try to reply while multitasking at work, so Thankyou for teaching me that.

Cheers

 

[stubbyhubby]

I get your point, and somewhat agree, but also see how someone could be a "single cuck".

For example: If tomorrow my wife divorces me, does that mean I am a cuck today and instantly stop as soon as the papers are signed tomorrow? My cuck mentality is still the same. My dick is still tiny. Before I will date another female I will clarify that I am a cuck and will only proceed with a relationship with her if she is sexually active with other men. I would never be willing to enter a monogamous relationship. So am I a cuck or not?

 

[MacNfries]

My personal
... stubby, but I think the title of cuckold would apply to current relationships only. Once the relationship is over, you're no longer affected by that individual's sexual activities. You would need to be involved with another idividual. Notice I use generalities around gender as these days anyone can be attached (legally) to anyone else.
If your 'dick' is as small as you say, I don't think you'd have to wait long for your current mates to find others to eventually copulate, with or without your knowledge or approval. People simply don't enter into relationships with the same commitments as they did in the past. Many tend to be "shake & bake" relationships, which makes commitments harder to honor.
The sooner your mate sees your situation and what she can expect, the sooner you can probably expect her to see others, eventually ... which will probably result in breakups, divorce and a new "start over" plan for you. That's why I'd suggest you hold back on marital commitments for a couple years or more to see where the relationship goes. If you see her disinterest in sex develop, THEN it is time to probably have that 'open marriage' discussion, but not until that happens. In general, I see females a bit more serious about relationships than most men. When she begins to stray, it'll probably be because she simply isn't happy with the monotony of her relationship with you. In fact, the sooner she sees your 'offerings' the sooner she may decide a serious relationship is not even possible. It seems men, in voluntary cuckold relationships tend to do it more for the entertainment.
So, back to your question, the answer in my opinion is a YES, you'll no longer carry that 'honorable' title of CUCKOLD as it relates to unfaithful partners. By the way, I wouldn't be encouraging your partner to cheat with the expectations that she'll agree to let you watch her with other men or partners ... that's more fantasy & wishful thinking than anything.

 

[vici4u]

I get your point, and somewhat agree, but also see how someone could be a "single cuck".

For example: If tomorrow my wife divorces me, does that mean I am a cuck today and instantly stop as soon as the papers are signed tomorrow? My cuck mentality is still the same. My dick is still tiny. Before I will date another female I will clarify that I am a cuck and will only proceed with a relationship with her if she is sexually active with other men. I would never be willing to enter a monogamous relationship. So am I a cuck or not?

It's of my opinion yes as I to am in-between relationships , and prior to starting one I'm always up front as to my desires and lifestyle as a sisicuckold. Some women are ok with this style relationship others are not
So I'm a sisicuckold in-between and during relationships, course in-between relationships I'm not in the act of cuckolding but still a cuckold none the less
A simple analogy I surf but I'm not surfing now as I write this , but once at the beach I'll be surfing its a mind set and inner desires that makes you what you are in my opinion
The definition of cuckold is splitting hairs based on one mindset , So others say differently based on there thought processes, i m not here to attempt to change others thinking nor do i want to ill leave that up to th individuals. So I say we can agree to disagree
BTW welcome to the cuckold community

 

[MacNfries]

In virtuality, anything is possible. It's when we allow ourselves to bring virtuality into reality that things get hazy if not quite confusing. It's sort of like lying to yourself which is ok until your virtualities involve more than yourself.
One might ask why we, as a society, are getting away from having face to face conversations and preferring more texting, etc. Is it because our virtual worlds offer more of what we desire than our worlds in reality. Our reality worlds simply can't provide what we most desire ... example of the number of people who assume fake identities or rolls on websites such as these.

 

[Jimmydong]

That might grab some attention, but I have seen this more and more and I had some thoughts about it I’d like to share. Discuss away.

I see more and more threads of guys identifying themselves as a “single cuck” or “single stag” or something of the like. The problem is that it misses the point entirely. In fact, I would contend that to make the argument that such a thing exists is a slap in the face to real cuckolding and wife sharing relationships.

I am currently single, but I am not a cuckold right now. I’m a fan of the lifestyle, but that’s a stark difference. I was though, at one time a cuckold. My ex and I were in the lifestyle before she graduated college and moved away and during the time we were in a relationship, the lifestyle was absolutely amazing for us.

But when I think about being her cuck, I think about ALL of the things that went into the relationship. We met on tinder and exchanged messages, went on vanilla dates, cultivated a friendship, then a relationship. We met each others circle of friends and went through all the things a real couple does to BUILD a relationship. I worked for the first kiss, and of course worked to get her in bed. After getting to know her, we moved towards kinkier things, and built up to cuckolding. She knew I liked to be pegged when we met, but this was not on the radar. Thinking back to the buildup around her first “date” with another guy, it’s otherworldly how wild it is to think that I would share MY girlfriend with all our shared experiences with another guy.

Now, thinking of that, think of a self described single cuck. It’s basically just a guy who likes watching porn. It’s cheap to think of a guy who has nothing invested in a girl that doesn’t know he exists, and thinks he’s on the level of a husband who is watching HIS wife with a guy. Get the fuck out of here……

The best analogy I can think of is this: as a car and racing fan, I can like and appreciate watching guys drive Ferraris and expensive super cars on tv. I love watching racing and can admire the skill it takes to do so. I also realize that those drivers do not OWN the cars they are driving. Imagine saving up YOUR hard earned money for years, working late hours and finally throwing down the cash to buy a brand new Ferrari. Your dream car and your life savings

Then, you hand the keys to a professional racing driver. Your car and your half million dollars in the hands of a guy that will squeeze every drop of performance out of it, but also may total it. You watch him do things in that car that only he is capable of and see that car operating in its perfect environment. It has to be an absolute wonder to watch.

Then, some slob walks up beside you and puts him arm on your shoulder as he watches, and says “man, me and you are just two peas in a pod, I love it when that guys rings her out like that don’t you?”

Love to hear your thoughts. A rant for sure, but when you see a cuckold, or when you see a stag, put some respect on their name….

First off I think guys who call themselves single cucks are using the term to identify with who they are and want to be. I don’t think they mean they are currently being cuckolded. You seem to have some angst about this which probably means you are insecure and not sure about your own feelings. In a world where everyone is demanding that they are who they say they are regardless of the scientific reality who are you to tell cucks who they are or aren’t? Second you claim you were once cuckolded by a girlfriend you met on Tinder and who you are no longer in a relationship with. That alone seems to disqualify you from any bragging rights. Tinder was created 15 minutes ago and didn’t get popular until 10 minutes ago and you never married this chick and the relationship is already over so in reality you were just dating someone you thought was serious when she was just dating around. You were not in a real cuckold relationship either yet you called yourself a cuck. Get married and stay married for 10 years before calling yourself a cuck.

 

[GVLBottom]

First off I think guys who call themselves single cucks are using the term to identify with who they are and want to be. I don’t think they mean they are currently being cuckolded. You seem to have some angst about this which probably means you are insecure and not sure about your own feelings. In a world where everyone is demanding that they are who they say they are regardless of the scientific reality who are you to tell cucks who they are or aren’t? Second you claim you were once cuckolded by a girlfriend you met on Tinder and who you are no longer in a relationship with. That alone seems to disqualify you from any bragging rights. Tinder was created 15 minutes ago and didn’t get popular until 10 minutes ago and you never married this chick and the relationship is already over so in reality you were just dating someone you thought was serious when she was just dating around. You were not in a real cuckold relationship either yet you called yourself a cuck. Get married and stay married for 10 years before calling yourself a cuck.

I see that I struck a chord with you. The accusation of angst from me when I asked for a discussion is laughable considered that your main focus seems to be my personal relationship.

I dated M for almost 5 years, and it came to an amicable end when she took a job on the west coast after getting her masters. I know there are men on the forum that have been together with their wives 10x that, and I also know there are men that would LOVE to have a relationship in the lifestyle that long. You have an opinion obviously, for which you are entitled. It was a call with her just before I posted this that kicked off the thought to write this post. But again, funny to see that I have no right to describe a word that logically requires a relationship, yet you have a right to levy the same description on mine. It seems we sort of agree in a sense.

Again, im fine with a discussion on this. I didn't expect the entire forum to drop their notions and change course. Im not insecure about that. Disagree all you want, but don't expect me to not challenge what is obviously emotionally driven logic. the "single cucks do exist, but you can't call yourself a cuck unless you've been married" point is hard to square.

 

[sarajayfan]

So “cuckold” is a man whose wife has sex with other men, but a single man can’t be a cuckold?

Is “gay“ a male who has or is currently having sex with another male?
Then a male who is attracted to other males but is single or not currently pursuing a gay affair is actually not gay?

 

[BlackCuckquean]

That might grab some attention, but I have seen this more and more and I had some thoughts about it I’d like to share. Discuss away.

I see more and more threads of guys identifying themselves as a “single cuck” or “single stag” or something of the like. The problem is that it misses the point entirely. In fact, I would contend that to make the argument that such a thing exists is a slap in the face to real cuckolding and wife sharing relationships.

I am currently single, but I am not a cuckold right now. I’m a fan of the lifestyle, but that’s a stark difference. I was though, at one time a cuckold. My ex and I were in the lifestyle before she graduated college and moved away and during the time we were in a relationship, the lifestyle was absolutely amazing for us.

But when I think about being her cuck, I think about ALL of the things that went into the relationship. We met on tinder and exchanged messages, went on vanilla dates, cultivated a friendship, then a relationship. We met each others circle of friends and went through all the things a real couple does to BUILD a relationship. I worked for the first kiss, and of course worked to get her in bed. After getting to know her, we moved towards kinkier things, and built up to cuckolding. She knew I liked to be pegged when we met, but this was not on the radar. Thinking back to the buildup around her first “date” with another guy, it’s otherworldly how wild it is to think that I would share MY girlfriend with all our shared experiences with another guy.

Now, thinking of that, think of a self described single cuck. It’s basically just a guy who likes watching porn. It’s cheap to think of a guy who has nothing invested in a girl that doesn’t know he exists, and thinks he’s on the level of a husband who is watching HIS wife with a guy. Get the fuck out of here……

The best analogy I can think of is this: as a car and racing fan, I can like and appreciate watching guys drive Ferraris and expensive super cars on tv. I love watching racing and can admire the skill it takes to do so. I also realize that those drivers do not OWN the cars they are driving. Imagine saving up YOUR hard earned money for years, working late hours and finally throwing down the cash to buy a brand new Ferrari. Your dream car and your life savings

Then, you hand the keys to a professional racing driver. Your car and your half million dollars in the hands of a guy that will squeeze every drop of performance out of it, but also may total it. You watch him do things in that car that only he is capable of and see that car operating in its perfect environment. It has to be an absolute wonder to watch.

Then, some slob walks up beside you and puts him arm on your shoulder as he watches, and says “man, me and you are just two peas in a pod, I love it when that guys rings her out like that don’t you?”

Love to hear your thoughts. A rant for sure, but when you see a cuckold, or when you see a stag, put some respect on their name….

It’s part of my sexuality to be a cuck.

So that’s like saying there’s no such thing as a straight woman that has no man.

My sexuality is that I only desire and can only get off to my man fucking other girls while I work. I don’t want to or deserve dick and know the guy I’m with deserves to be able to nut in hotter, younger white women.

And I accept that this isn’t just a phase, it’s essential for me because it’s the only type of relationship I will be able to have.

 

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Thanks for sharing your views

Wholeheartedly agree. There is a world of difference between a cuckold wannabe and a man who enjoys the woman he is a serious relationship enjoying other men using her for sex