It seems like my girlfriend has a BBC fetish and is too shy/uncomfortable to admit it.
Me and my girlfriend (37 F) have been dating for about 5 years now. We're monogamous, have a good sex life, and haven't really ventured out at all. I'm white/male of average length/girth. The two most adventurous things she has done sexually is have a threesome with her ex-husband and another girl. And she visited a swingers club with her ex-husband but didn't partake. She said she "just watched" and that it was kind of a shock to her.
Ever since I've known her, she says thing that make me wonder if she secretly has an attraction/curiosity for BBC. Here's a list:
-When we first started dating, she randomly told me a story about her guy-friend, aka Jim. It went something like this. "My friend Jim keeps texting me weird questions about black guys. I think he has an obsession with their dicks or something. I guess he saw his girlfriend fucking two black guys and he said their dicks were huge.... like REALLY huge. Way bigger than a white guy's dick. But he liked it and now its all he ever thinks about. He texts me to ask me if I've tried BBC yet, and I'm like 'No!' He just goes on and on about black dicks and I think he wants to set me up with one or something--of course I would NEVER do that because I don't get it. But I think that's what he does. He films black guys with big dicks fucking white girls and sells the videos. He arranges everything." To which I just said, "Oh wow that's wild." (I had only know her a few months at this time).
-Her friends at work are all white girls dating black guys and they're always telling her to try BBC. They tell her it's bigger, better, all that stuff. And I recently found out that one of her work-friends frequently texts her BBC GIFs. My girlfriend says her friend sends her the GIFs b/c she "...likes to see my shocked reaction to the GIFs." and that she "...Doesn't think they're hot--more funny than anything."
-Her tastes in porn are unknown to me. I just know that she watches it sometimes.
-She makes lots of BBC jokes. Here's a few examples:
Joke #1: She said "I have a dildo." I said "Oh, do you?" and she said "Yeah. A big black one." (She said that, and then kind of watch my confused laugh before she said she was kidding. It's just a regular vibrator...)
Joke #2: One time i got some sexy underwear that had a separate pocket for my penis. I showed them to her and she said, "Do they make them with different size pouches? Like an extra large one for black guys?" She then elaborated on the fact that many black guys wouldn't be able to fit their dick in such a pocket...
Joke #3: I was playing a PC RPG game, building my character, and there just so happened to me an option to pick a big dick or a small dick for my character. I told my girlfriend this and she said, "Does it have to be a white dick? I think that since it's a big dick it should have to be black."
Joke #4: We'll get done having sex and she'll say something like "See, this is why I tell Jim I don't need a black guy."
I asked her recently why she's so obsessed with making BBC jokes. She said she liked to see my reaction to the jokes, and that she thought that I thought they were funny (they kind of are but they make me more curious than anything). So I told her that if she makes the jokes all the time, she must be thinking about it a lot. I said, "Do you watch BBC porn?" and she said. "I mean... I've seen the videos with black guys when I'm scrolling but that's not usually what I choose to watch." So I asked her why it was always (apparently) on her mind. She said, "Probably because my friends at work are always talking to me about it and trying to get me to go black. They're always trying to convert me." She then showed me the text messages they send her with the BBC GIFs. She also got a little embarrassed and said "You must think im some kind of freak." But that was never my intention, and i apologized and assured her that I was only curious and would never judge her for such things.
-Her friend from work texted her a photo of a VERY well-endowed mixed guy one time. At one point, my gf showed it to me (for like the third time) and said, "I don't think I would let anyone stick that thing in me. It's too big." Later on, when we were watching T.V., I saw her staring at the big dick pic again. I thought, "Clearly, she's fascinated with it." She just kept looking at it from time to time.
-She follows a female pornstar on Twitter that makes either lesbian videos, or interracial BBC videos. She says that's her favorite pornstar.
-On a few occasions, the topic of her friend Jim has come back up. He might send her a text one afternoon and she'll tell me about it like, "Oh! Jim sent me another text this afternoon... asking me if I've tried big black cock yet. And I'm like 'No and I'm not planning on it'. He says the sex with black men is soooo much better and I'd love it. I think Jim must wish he was a black guy with a big dick."
-One time I saw pics on her phone of a ripped, oiled-up black guy that she had recently viewed.
-One time we were talking about big dicks in porn. I said there are lots of white guys with big dicks in porn too. Her response was, "Yeah but they're not as big as black guys dicks. Black dicks can get huuuuuge."
-One time she made a very odd comment in which she asked me what my reaction would be if a "big dicked black guy" and her got sexually involved. I don't remember exactly how it went because we were both *******. But she quickly laughed and said she was just kidding. I think she assumed she had taken one of her jokes too far at that point.
-She says Black men seem "more sexual" but that she's "only attracted to the really hot ones."
-She says she has never been with a black man simply because she's never dated one.
-She'll often say that size doesn't matter, and that she's more about "the emotion" during sex
I guess the next step is just tell her I watch interracial porn sometimes. I've not been completely honest with her about ALL of the types of porn I like to watch. So, I guess it starts there. It's just interesting to me that she brings up the topic of BBC as often as she does, and it makes me wonder what's really going on with her whole fascination with BBC.
If anyone would like to share their opinions or similar experiences, I'd like to hear them! It's a very curious situation to me.
Me and my girlfriend (37 F) have been dating for about 5 years now. We're monogamous, have a good sex life, and haven't really ventured out at all. I'm white/male of average length/girth. The two most adventurous things she has done sexually is have a threesome with her ex-husband and another girl. And she visited a swingers club with her ex-husband but didn't partake. She said she "just watched" and that it was kind of a shock to her.
Ever since I've known her, she says thing that make me wonder if she secretly has an attraction/curiosity for BBC. Here's a list:
-When we first started dating, she randomly told me a story about her guy-friend, aka Jim. It went something like this. "My friend Jim keeps texting me weird questions about black guys. I think he has an obsession with their dicks or something. I guess he saw his girlfriend fucking two black guys and he said their dicks were huge.... like REALLY huge. Way bigger than a white guy's dick. But he liked it and now its all he ever thinks about. He texts me to ask me if I've tried BBC yet, and I'm like 'No!' He just goes on and on about black dicks and I think he wants to set me up with one or something--of course I would NEVER do that because I don't get it. But I think that's what he does. He films black guys with big dicks fucking white girls and sells the videos. He arranges everything." To which I just said, "Oh wow that's wild." (I had only know her a few months at this time).
-Her friends at work are all white girls dating black guys and they're always telling her to try BBC. They tell her it's bigger, better, all that stuff. And I recently found out that one of her work-friends frequently texts her BBC GIFs. My girlfriend says her friend sends her the GIFs b/c she "...likes to see my shocked reaction to the GIFs." and that she "...Doesn't think they're hot--more funny than anything."
-Her tastes in porn are unknown to me. I just know that she watches it sometimes.
-She makes lots of BBC jokes. Here's a few examples:
Joke #1: She said "I have a dildo." I said "Oh, do you?" and she said "Yeah. A big black one." (She said that, and then kind of watch my confused laugh before she said she was kidding. It's just a regular vibrator...)
Joke #2: One time i got some sexy underwear that had a separate pocket for my penis. I showed them to her and she said, "Do they make them with different size pouches? Like an extra large one for black guys?" She then elaborated on the fact that many black guys wouldn't be able to fit their dick in such a pocket...
Joke #3: I was playing a PC RPG game, building my character, and there just so happened to me an option to pick a big dick or a small dick for my character. I told my girlfriend this and she said, "Does it have to be a white dick? I think that since it's a big dick it should have to be black."
Joke #4: We'll get done having sex and she'll say something like "See, this is why I tell Jim I don't need a black guy."
I asked her recently why she's so obsessed with making BBC jokes. She said she liked to see my reaction to the jokes, and that she thought that I thought they were funny (they kind of are but they make me more curious than anything). So I told her that if she makes the jokes all the time, she must be thinking about it a lot. I said, "Do you watch BBC porn?" and she said. "I mean... I've seen the videos with black guys when I'm scrolling but that's not usually what I choose to watch." So I asked her why it was always (apparently) on her mind. She said, "Probably because my friends at work are always talking to me about it and trying to get me to go black. They're always trying to convert me." She then showed me the text messages they send her with the BBC GIFs. She also got a little embarrassed and said "You must think im some kind of freak." But that was never my intention, and i apologized and assured her that I was only curious and would never judge her for such things.
-Her friend from work texted her a photo of a VERY well-endowed mixed guy one time. At one point, my gf showed it to me (for like the third time) and said, "I don't think I would let anyone stick that thing in me. It's too big." Later on, when we were watching T.V., I saw her staring at the big dick pic again. I thought, "Clearly, she's fascinated with it." She just kept looking at it from time to time.
-She follows a female pornstar on Twitter that makes either lesbian videos, or interracial BBC videos. She says that's her favorite pornstar.
-On a few occasions, the topic of her friend Jim has come back up. He might send her a text one afternoon and she'll tell me about it like, "Oh! Jim sent me another text this afternoon... asking me if I've tried big black cock yet. And I'm like 'No and I'm not planning on it'. He says the sex with black men is soooo much better and I'd love it. I think Jim must wish he was a black guy with a big dick."
-One time I saw pics on her phone of a ripped, oiled-up black guy that she had recently viewed.
-One time we were talking about big dicks in porn. I said there are lots of white guys with big dicks in porn too. Her response was, "Yeah but they're not as big as black guys dicks. Black dicks can get huuuuuge."
-One time she made a very odd comment in which she asked me what my reaction would be if a "big dicked black guy" and her got sexually involved. I don't remember exactly how it went because we were both *******. But she quickly laughed and said she was just kidding. I think she assumed she had taken one of her jokes too far at that point.
-She says Black men seem "more sexual" but that she's "only attracted to the really hot ones."
-She says she has never been with a black man simply because she's never dated one.
-She'll often say that size doesn't matter, and that she's more about "the emotion" during sex
I guess the next step is just tell her I watch interracial porn sometimes. I've not been completely honest with her about ALL of the types of porn I like to watch. So, I guess it starts there. It's just interesting to me that she brings up the topic of BBC as often as she does, and it makes me wonder what's really going on with her whole fascination with BBC.
If anyone would like to share their opinions or similar experiences, I'd like to hear them! It's a very curious situation to me.
