Yeah, it took a while to find a guy and to encourage my husband to do it. He was still reluctant. I/we had to say, "Open" to him the first time or two. I did not do anything directly to the guy he as going to give a bj to, but both my husband and the blk guy were hard when it was time for my husband to suck. Of course, part of it (and my thrill too) was him swallowing.
I was a lot more excited than that when I finally encouraged him to the point of taking a guy anally. It was a huge thrill for me and be the fact that he was hard the whole time, and came, it was a thrill for my husband too.