It was 5 years for us after we were together.
We had discussed it in length as fantasy, which turned into would you, then that turned into I want you too.
She had obviously already given it a lot of thought at that point because she set all the rules right away, none of which I found to be deal breakers.
I never pressured her, I just put us in situations that it would be more likely to happen organically, basically took her to restaurants and music clubs that were black people frequented.
eventually after about 5 months of that all the stars lined up, and that was 20 years ago
We had discussed it in length as fantasy, which turned into would you, then that turned into I want you too.
She had obviously already given it a lot of thought at that point because she set all the rules right away, none of which I found to be deal breakers.
I never pressured her, I just put us in situations that it would be more likely to happen organically, basically took her to restaurants and music clubs that were black people frequented.
eventually after about 5 months of that all the stars lined up, and that was 20 years ago