Finally brought it up with my wife

[Dirtycuckboi]

After months of dropping small hints and comments. I finally steered the conversation so that I could reveal my thoughts.
She was receptive at first, hearing me out. But eventually started saying things like "you're all I need", "isn't that just cheating?", and "I'm not sure about that".

After a bit of back and forth where I reassured her this wasn't about me trying to sneakily fuck some other girl or something, and explaining what hotwifing is, I finally convinced her this was purely about her pleasure.

And I'm summing up all of this, the entire conversation was a few hours long.

She's still not completely convinced, but she agreed to role play it with me and see how it goes.

But gents, I've finally taken the first step. It's been years in the making. But I finally did it. And I feel great. She wasn't as keen on it as I hoped, but the door is opened. She's always been a bit of a size queen, preferring to use our bigger dildos. And I'm average at best.

She agreed to watch some hotwife porn and let me use her favorite dildo on her. And she doesn't seem against the whole thing, more just confused or something.

But I'm afraid I'm going to fuck it up on the home stretch. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

 

[Dirtycuckboi]

Anyone have a recommendation for what porn I should play for her on the first time we roleplay this?
She wants to roleplay it tonight, which I'm taking to mean she's eager and excited by it. But I don't know what to show her that is mild and not too extreme.

 

[one2submit]

I will simply add that different people like different things. My wife loves porn especially BBC porn. At the same time she doesn’t care for our dildos. She’ll role play with the theme of BBC but insists she doesn’t want to actually go all the way. So what ever you do listen to and watch her for what she likes and needs. Though pushing boundaries is aways a part of expanding our experience it needs to be done with care when it involves another that may or may not share our same desires.

 

[travelin man]

A lot of guys get cold feet when it is too late to turn the ship around, and the female often experiences the majority of the guilt. That means disaster for a lot of relationships. Being cautious or hesitant is a good thing. Only do it if you know your relationship is ROCK SOLID. Don't convnce yourself it is solid if you have any lingering doubts. Be honest with each other and yourselves. Otherwise, be prepared for some unpleasant experiences.

 

[NoobCouple]

I will simply add that different people like different things. My wife loves porn especially BBC porn. At the same time she doesn’t care for our dildos. She’ll role play with the theme of BBC but insists she doesn’t want to actually go all the way. So what ever you do listen to and watch her for what she likes and needs. Though pushing boundaries is aways a part of expanding our experience it needs to be done with care when it involves another that may or may not share our same desires.

Well said.

 

[Wife<3bbc]

After months of dropping small hints and comments. I finally steered the conversation so that I could reveal my thoughts.
She was receptive at first, hearing me out. But eventually started saying things like "you're all I need", "isn't that just cheating?", and "I'm not sure about that".

After a bit of back and forth where I reassured her this wasn't about me trying to sneakily fuck some other girl or something, and explaining what hotwifing is, I finally convinced her this was purely about her pleasure.

And I'm summing up all of this, the entire conversation was a few hours long.

She's still not completely convinced, but she agreed to role play it with me and see how it goes.

But gents, I've finally taken the first step. It's been years in the making. But I finally did it. And I feel great. She wasn't as keen on it as I hoped, but the door is opened. She's always been a bit of a size queen, preferring to use our bigger dildos. And I'm average at best.

She agreed to watch some hotwife porn and let me use her favorite dildo on her. And she doesn't seem against the whole thing, more just confused or something.

But I'm afraid I'm going to fuck it up on the home stretch. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

You should not try to make this about her. You’re pushing this to happen so it’s your pleasure. You’re getting kicks for seeing her being slutty and seeing her enjoying another man. Of course she must get pleasure of it but pointing that out to her makes it look like she wants to fuck another man, as if she’s the ”quilty”. Just my opinion, I havent got my wife into fucking a guy yet but she’s willing to do it. Just needs a bit of time.

 

[bhappy_39]

Sometimes you just have to come out and say what you want.

 

[Jdingo619]

After months of dropping small hints and comments. I finally steered the conversation so that I could reveal my thoughts.
She was receptive at first, hearing me out. But eventually started saying things like "you're all I need", "isn't that just cheating?", and "I'm not sure about that".

After a bit of back and forth where I reassured her this wasn't about me trying to sneakily fuck some other girl or something, and explaining what hotwifing is, I finally convinced her this was purely about her pleasure.

And I'm summing up all of this, the entire conversation was a few hours long.

She's still not completely convinced, but she agreed to role play it with me and see how it goes.

But gents, I've finally taken the first step. It's been years in the making. But I finally did it. And I feel great. She wasn't as keen on it as I hoped, but the door is opened. She's always been a bit of a size queen, preferring to use our bigger dildos. And I'm average at best.

She agreed to watch some hotwife porn and let me use her favorite dildo on her. And she doesn't seem against the whole thing, more just confused or something.

But I'm afraid I'm going to fuck it up on the home stretch. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

You should not be having this particular conversation outside of the prelude to having sex meaning just before while you're fooling around, or during sex talking dirty about it, or during the pillow talk after just having sex when the sexual fantasy conversation is as its sexiest.

If you talk about this over lunch or while you're just trying to Netflix and chill then you are definitely gonna mess it up!