So my wife and I have been together since high school. We are now in our late 20s from New Jersey. We recently realized and agreed that our sex life has become kind of repetitive. We started to try new things like watch porn and new toys which worked for a bit. We both can to realize that we just haven’t experienced anything really besides eachother. We decided that before we start the next chapter in our life that we can have an open marriage for a bit. We both can do what we want with who we want just to experience new things with new people. She told me that she had never been with a black guy before and she had been fantasizing about it since we started watching porn together which brought us to this site. She was unsure how to post which is why I am doing it for her. She’ll upload pictures in an album by tonight and if she is interested she’ll follow so you can see her and see where it goes from there. We are trying to be as discreet as possible with all this. We noticed cuckolding is big on this site and we are definitely not doing it or into it so just an advance heads up. This is her space for her to do as she please while we try this. She’ll be answering any messages if she’s interested.
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where in nj are you guys located
You might want to also look at a site called SDC. It’s a swingers site but there are lots of singles on there and the people who pay the membership are typically real.
If you don’t mind some unsolicited advice.
Set some rules and boundaries. They can be what ever works for you guys. Most people will modify them as they progress.
Determine if you want her ( or she wants you ) playing separate or if you’re going to be together.
Determine if you’re both ok with the other contacting people separately or if you will have a combined chat.
Discuss what you’re both comfortable with sharing ( pics. Phone numbers….etc). Once you put nude pics anywhere on line you lose the ability to control where they go or what people do with them. So consider how discrete you both want to be.
Consider creating Google voice numbers. Last thing you want is sharing your real name or the ability for anyone to figure who you really are until you’re absolutely ready to meet someone in person.
Consider going to a swingers club. You’ll almost certainly meet singles ( on the nights they are allowed). You can watch others. You can participate as much or as little as you want. And there is an expectation there that no means no so it’s a good way to explore what you’re looking for in a relatively safe environment.
Be prepared for emotions. Even though you might think this is just sex you’ll both feel a ton of new ( positive and negative ) after you’ve had your 1st new experiences. Just talk through. Some people find it hard to separate sex from emotion. You’ll have to reassure yourselves what you’re good with.
Personally speaking. This only works if you both get what you’re looking for from this.
If either of you are running at different speeds…play to the lowest level you’re both willing to accept. You might want a steady. She might not want you to have one. The reverse can happen too. If you push past each others confirm level and not willing to respect each others boundaries …..it creates resent and sadly we know a ton of people in the lifestyle that couldn’t resolve that and ended up splitting.
If you get it right….can be tons of fun and pleasure.
Cheers.
If you don’t mind some unsolicited advice.
Set some rules and boundaries. They can be what ever works for you guys. Most people will modify them as they progress.
Determine if you want her ( or she wants you ) playing separate or if you’re going to be together.
Determine if you’re both ok with the other contacting people separately or if you will have a combined chat.
Discuss what you’re both comfortable with sharing ( pics. Phone numbers….etc). Once you put nude pics anywhere on line you lose the ability to control where they go or what people do with them. So consider how discrete you both want to be.
Consider creating Google voice numbers. Last thing you want is sharing your real name or the ability for anyone to figure who you really are until you’re absolutely ready to meet someone in person.
Consider going to a swingers club. You’ll almost certainly meet singles ( on the nights they are allowed). You can watch others. You can participate as much or as little as you want. And there is an expectation there that no means no so it’s a good way to explore what you’re looking for in a relatively safe environment.
Be prepared for emotions. Even though you might think this is just sex you’ll both feel a ton of new ( positive and negative ) after you’ve had your 1st new experiences. Just talk through. Some people find it hard to separate sex from emotion. You’ll have to reassure yourselves what you’re good with.
Personally speaking. This only works if you both get what you’re looking for from this.
If either of you are running at different speeds…play to the lowest level you’re both willing to accept. You might want a steady. She might not want you to have one. The reverse can happen too. If you push past each others confirm level and not willing to respect each others boundaries …..it creates resent and sadly we know a ton of people in the lifestyle that couldn’t resolve that and ended up splitting.
If you get it right….can be tons of fun and pleasure.
Cheers.
Thanks for the advice! Very helpful
