I understand what you mean!
I have been told by a woman that her husband took her to a lifestyle party and she went buckwild on BBC and fucked several her first time out and she said the look on his face was one of absolute disgust! She said she right then and there that it would never happen again!
I've had a few other women contact me and tell me that their husband's want them to join this lifestyle, but they don't think that their husband's really understand what door they are opening or they don't believe that their husband's can really handle what they are asking for, which is watching them with someone else!
This is why as a Bull I always tell couple's my number one rule is: The woman must be free and uninhibited to sexually express and enjoy herself as she sees fit! If they don't agree to this understanding I respectfully decline, and I have never had a bad experience in the lifestyle in 14 years!
(This rule causes couple's to have to really take time and think long and hard and deep about whether or not if this is what they really want!)