Is fucking someone elses girlfriend/wife bareback a turn on?
from a single guys point of view ....
..., the risk of STDs are laughably overstated. It's a bunch of fear-mongering and propaganda.
I'm still selective, because I have much more to lose than to gain ...
Sex without condoms is largely a waste of time for me. I have noticed the feelings of well-being and health are much greater without a condom than with. And, after delving into the research (preliminary so far; I'd love to be pointed to more sources!), the risk of STDs are laughably overstated. It's a bunch of fear-mongering and propaganda.
I'm still selective, because I have much more to lose than to gain (and because I can afford to be), but I would never even think about pursuing something with a couple/woman who espoused "safe sex" as one of the first things out of their mouth.
Everybody has a comfort level. I wouldn't have sex with anyone that didn't have a clean medical. It is no guarantee but reduces the risk to a level I am comfortable with. A good part of any good sexual encounter is trust and respect. If someone balks at meeting a reasonable request you probably don't want to share a bed with them.One of my very dear friends from univ is HIV positive, and has been for several years. I value his opinion greatly. If I ever had to tell him that I had been reckless and was now positive as well, the look in his eyes would shatter me. Trust me, HIV may no longer mean a certain death sentence in the near future, but it's no fun to live with, from what I hear from him.
If me asking a guy to use a condom, to be safe, would be a deal-breaker for him, then I wouldn't want to be with him anyway. Sex might be fantastic, but even the greatest sex isn't worth your health and well-being. Once trust is earned, on both sides, then fine. But that isn't instantaneous.
One of my very dear friends from univ is HIV positive, and has been for several years. I value his opinion greatly. If I ever had to tell him that I had been reckless and was now positive as well, the look in his eyes would shatter me. Trust me, HIV may no longer mean a certain death sentence in the near future, but it's no fun to live with, from what I hear from him.
If me asking a guy to use a condom, to be safe, would be a deal-breaker for him, then I wouldn't want to be with him anyway. Sex might be fantastic, but even the greatest sex isn't worth your health and well-being. Once trust is earned, on both sides, then fine. But that isn't instantaneous.
Yes, my friend has to deal with that same cocktail. I'm just incredibly thankful that there are at least meds available. He's been in my life for 25 years now, and I love him dearly, and I'm not even close to ready to say goodbye to him yetWe also have friends (yes, multiple) who are HIV+ as well as too many more who have herpes.
Knock on wood, we've been lucky, but we've been monogamous due to insisting on co-testing with any prospects, none of whom have as yet come up totally STD/STI free, men or women.
It was heartbreaking to have one friend visit with us for a week and see the separate carry on suitcase he had to bring just to carry all the pills for his "cocktail". The bag was full and he still needed to have his doctor call in a prescription for him to pick up locally.
Definitely not a happy way to have to live, especially if you have to do a lot of travelling as he does.