Secretly bi white male

[kinkyz]

Hello. New to the site. Found it a few days ago and decided to finally join.

Married. White male. 32 yo. Secretly bi for black males.

NC is where me and my wife live.

She doesn’t know everything but does know I enjoy interracial sex/porn and would like to see her with a BBC. She has been with a few black men so nothing new to her there. Unfortunately she currently isn’t interested in bringing another man into our sex life. So the closest thing i get is being able to fuck her with a bbc dildo. (Which she really enjoys)

Anyways. Looking forward to chat with some like minded people and possibly some sexy hung black men

 

[AnnieS]

Dont you think it may be kind of important that you tell her your having gay fantatsies?

 

[kinkyz]

Dont you think it ay be kind of important that you tell her your having gay fantatsies?

I plan to. Just didn’t want to overwhelm her. I have more fantasies about her with a black man then i do of me joining in. I didn’t want to unload everything on her at once and make her feel i am pushing her.

 

[Naughtygators]

Hello. New to the site. Found it a few days ago and decided to finally join.

Married. White male. 32 yo. Secretly bi for black males.

NC is where me and my wife live.

She doesn’t know everything but does know I enjoy interracial sex/porn and would like to see her with a BBC. She has been with a few black men so nothing new to her there. Unfortunately she currently isn’t interested in bringing another man into our sex life. So the closest thing i get is being able to fuck her with a bbc dildo. (Which she really enjoys)

Anyways. Looking forward to chat with some like minded people and possibly some sexy hung black men

Good luck. It is worth having an open conversation when you think you are both ready. It’s a fun adventure.

 

[cindycd]

Dont you think it may be kind of important that you tell her your having gay fantatsies?

Do you have to disclose every fantasy you have?

 

[AnnieS]

Well this is sort of a big one don’t you think.

 

[cindycd]

Well this is sort of a big one don’t you think.

If it’s a reality he wants to pursue its huge. If it’s not going to turn into anything maybe not as big. What if he says honey I’ve had some odd dreams and fantasies about other men and she freaks out and leaves him? I guess it’s a big thing then too. Depends on how she will take it and if it’s worth the risk. But if he intends to pursue it then yes it’s a huge deal.

 

[AnnieS]

Just my opinion but if your spouse is having same sex feelings and fantasies then yeah it’s time to come clean because honesty is the basis of a marriage and this is only going to end poorly if it’s hidden and starts to manifest in other ways. The problem is I see it is way too many men here are trying to project their fantasies on their spouse / female partner who does not share the fantasy or indulge in the thought of the fantasy. This is the case where he’s gone one step beyond the fantasy, which she’s already declined and is now in the process of discovering he has same sex feelings on top of the three some fantasy which is actually more appealing to him to indulge his fantasy of a same sex encounter, yeah it’s a big thing to disclose that as it is being totally dishonest. This could impact the relationship in a huge way if it’s left to grow. This is a dual person relationship.

 

[cindycd]

That’s fair